THE PROVEN THINKING BEHIND YOUR MARRIAGE INTENSIVE EXPERIENCE
As an experienced couples therapist who has successfully worked with hundreds of married partners, I have made a lifelong study of what people need in order to overcome the confusion and conflicts that build up over time. The truth is, most marriages suffer from well-known patterns that drive people apart – leaving both partners feeling lonely, disillusioned and betrayed.
The encouraging news is that it doesn’t have to end there. The field of couples therapy has created solid, research-based approaches that have been proven to restore the love and understanding that you and your partner need from one another.
I have studied with recognized experts such as Esther Perel, Stan Tatkin and Michelle Weiner-Davis as well as Drs. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, co-founders of the Couples Institute. I draw extensively on the Developmental Model of couples therapy that Ellyn and Peter have developed, which gives us a powerful way to see each of you as individuals within an evolving relationship. My years of study and practical experience make it possible for me to create an effective, fully customized intensive experience that will empower you as individuals and partners.
QUESTIONS ABOUT THE MARRIAGE INTENSIVE EXPERIENCE
Can we afford a marriage intensive?
Think about it this way. What would you give in order to restore the love, trust and support you once felt in your marriage?
Virtually all couples tell me those things are priceless to them. So the question might be – can you afford NOT to invest in your relationship at this crucial point?
There’s no doubt that the upfront cost of a marriage intensive differs from traditional therapy. Yet as an experienced therapist, I can tell you that no other method delivers the rapid results that couples experience when they commit to a marriage intensive. Most people tell me that it’s the best money they’ve ever spent. Many consider it a gift they’ve given each other — especially when they think about the horrendous financial and emotional costs that always come with divorce.
Your marriage is worth it. Which means you owe it to each other to consider making this investment in your long-term happiness.
What can we really accomplish in just 1 or 2 days?
You may believe that it will take years to untangle the issues that have built up. But the perspective you can gain through the marriage intensive experience is a true game-changer. You will learn so much about yourself and your partner – because we won’t be subject to the same old stop-and-start pattern of traditional therapy. Diving deep into the patterns that drive your relationship will enable us to see where you’re stuck and redirect your energies toward satisfying solutions.
The other great advantage of a marriage intensive is the chance to explore and practice new skills that will help you provide mutual support for each other. These simple changes are remarkably effective – and you’ll leave my office feeling confident in your ability to carry them into your everyday life. I will also provide you with a wealth of supplemental readings and exercises to support your continued success.
I’m worried that we’ll feel overwhelmed by the process. Isn’t it exhausting?
Most couples tell me that they feel just the opposite! The discoveries they make during a marriage intensive actually give them a burst of energy as they see the potential that is still alive within their marriage. It’s amazing to witness the motivation that comes to the forefront when both partners realize they have the power to change the course of their relationship. It’s a great experience for all 3 of us!
Remember, too, that we will take refreshing breaks in the morning and afternoon, plus a 90-minute lunch – so you will have plenty of time to relax and recharge your batteries. If you choose the 2-day Marriage Renewal Intensive, our 4:30 end time ensures that you will have plenty of time to rest overnight. Thanks to years of successful experience in couples counseling, I am able to shape the timing of your sessions to ensure a positive outcome.
What if we still need help after our marriage intensive?
Many couples return for a second intensive a few months later. Generally, these take place in my Bellevue offices – but I also offer live sessions via videoconference.
Either way, this option gives you the support you need to make continuous progress. I am dedicated to helping you succeed with each other over the long term.
“After we got home, we realized just how close we’d come to splitting up – and how LUCKY we were to work with Lori at the right point in time. I’m so grateful we did this.” – P.B.